Article by Melissa Ross
Families have problems. That is a universal truth. Parents all over Earth have wondered why it can be so hard to solve a problem, or why possible solutions aren’t readily apparent. I work with families, so when I sat down to write this article, the first question that came to mind was, “Why can’t people solve problems?” The quick answer is lack of clarity. Many parents experience levels of stress that make them unable to see clear solutions to the types of problems families generate. But, by knowing how to shift the status of their mindset, daily life as well as the ability to solve problems becomes easier. Parents, think about where you feel the most yourself. Where and when are you the most relaxed? Is it by doing an activity, or being in a place? Why are you at peace doing that or being there? By answering these questions, you’ve just shifted your mindset into “positive” and “happy.” My happy place is the shower. I can solve anything that I’ve been struggling with there. It’s as if the water is cleansing away the day, allowing clarity to break through. I schedule showers around times when I need to find the most clarity. So, how can you integrate your activity or place that brings you peace in ways that allow you clarity? More than a space or a place can help shift your mindset, and I’m offering my best strategies. Practicing gratitude naturally allows you to see things in a more positive light. It doesn’t mean that you forget that you have that tough problem to solve; rather you recognize the positives within it. Your mind shifts when you list three things you’re grateful for, no matter how big or small. Keep that pen in your hand, because it is also helpful to tackle negative thoughts through journaling. Choose a time in your day when you can find solitude to write out the thoughts and feelings that are coming up for you. There is no right or wrong way, as long as you do it. Whether it is practicing yoga, going for a run, or lifting weights at the gym, working with your physical body brings you to a peaceful place. Regardless of which activity you choose, breathwork and meditation can be integrated. Being mindful of your breath and how it is flowing clears your mind. Taking it further and slowing your breath promotes calm and eases anxiety. A meditation practice means turning your attention to something, whether it’s breath, body, or a mantra. Stay aware of where you are and be fully present in the activity. By using these strategies in your work, play, and personal life, you will find clarity and solutions to your family’s problems will arise. Practice them with your entire family, and enjoy a peaceful home life, knowing I am grateful that you read this article!